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15 December 2008 at 22:35

i have two children
after my first i felt loose and my fiance laughed saying anymore babies and sex will be pointless
needless to say he is not my fiance anymore. i am now engaged to my present partner. we had my secnd baby a few months back
he said to me ? were you ever tight down there? i started crying and he made out thats not what he ment
my first birth was 7lb baby by forcep delivery and i was cut and sewed back together
my second was normal but both my children were in my vagina a long time as it took hours from when i was fully dialatd till i pushed them out , i was pushing for hours with both
also when i use tampons the blood runs down the sides of them(large ones) is that mean im loose?
sex is ok if my legs are together but if i part them it feels horrible like my cervix is being hit but the sides of my vagina arent
i also have a very large labia(this doesnt bother me though)
i know people who have had several babys does that mean they are relly loose?
or does it depend on the person
i would like more children but i know if i had a vaginal birth i wouldnt cope

what are your experiences please share as i dont have anyone to ask?

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15 December 2008 at 22:40

Please someone reply as i need you woman to step up
this is not a nice subject i know but i need some re assurance i am not alone

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15 December 2008 at 22:44

Well...
if I were you, I'd deal with your fiance by saying it wasn't babies that made you that way, it was your ex's excessively large c*ck. That should shut him up.

I have had three children, and I would say what you describe is fairly normal, but if you're worried, why not talk to your GP?

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15 December 2008 at 22:48
In response to midori1999

Well...
if I were you, I'd deal with your fiance by saying it wasn't babies that made you that way, it was your ex's excessively large c*ck. That should shut him up.

I have had three children, and I would say what you describe is fairly normal, but if you're worried, why not talk to your GP?

Im too embarrassed
that would be a good one if my ex wasnt such a pig then i would say that
does it get looser each child,, were your births long at the pushing stage ?
is it true if they stitch you after a persiotomy you could end up tighter than ever or is it a myth?

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15 December 2008 at 22:54

Quite frankly
if any man I honoured with sex had the effing audacity to make a sarky remark like that to me, it would be the last time he ever got to enjoy my body. What an insensitive £$%^&*

Thre are plenty of online sites that will tell you all about KEGEL exercises, and pelvic toners, if you are too embarrased to talk to you GP - but honestly, you shouldn't be. Your nurse or GP - or even better, your midwife -will be able to advise you, this is what they are trained to do as well.

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15 December 2008 at 23:17

Hiya
I know how you feel, i feel after two children that things are different with my lady bits. My husband said that after my first you could never tell i had a child but i feel my second well her birth was a lot easier but i was pushing for longer has made all the difference to my cha cha. I would say i know you may find it embarrassing but talk to your GP they can refer you to a specialist who can help you with your Pelvic Floors. Explain you feel down but please only do it for yourself not for anyone else. Also you may find alot of women will not admit to many probs involving their cha chas. I will admit i am looser but having too children both vaginal births is a lot of stress on the pelvic floors.

aishya x

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15 December 2008 at 23:18

Hi
I have had 1 pregnancy and although i'm probably not as tight as I used to be I can't really notice much of a difference. What your describing doesn't sound normal. Maybe you should go to see your Dr because it can't be very nice for you and they might beable to help. Have you tried doing pelvic floor exercises?(don't mean to sound patronising if I do x).

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15 December 2008 at 23:20
In response to midori1999

Well...
if I were you, I'd deal with your fiance by saying it wasn't babies that made you that way, it was your ex's excessively large c*ck. That should shut him up.

I have had three children, and I would say what you describe is fairly normal, but if you're worried, why not talk to your GP?

Pmsl
That's great midori x

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15 December 2008 at 23:49
In response to eadie

Please someone reply as i need you woman to step up
this is not a nice subject i know but i need some re assurance i am not alone

Hi
I have also had 2 children vaginally and although I seemed to go back to normal after the first, (he was 6 weeks early and only 4.5lb), I haven't been as lucky after the second - even though the second birth only took 20 mins and a few pushes, he was a big baby for me, they panicked about his heartrate and we had to get him out quickly. I ended up with an episiotomy and a 3rd degree tear. I feel a lot, lot looser - have to use bigger tampons now and just feel like I've changed forever....he's 13 months now. I went to the doctor about it a few weeks ago and said how worried I was - she gave me a full internal and said I was definitely "baggier" (LOL) but everything was normal after 2 births. So that put my mind at rest quite a lot.

I'm single atm as hubbie walked out on us 6 months ago, so sex isn't an issue, but am already worried for when i meet someone new. I've thought about those toner things....have you heard about them? I may give one a go as I think I'm beyond pelvic floor exercises helping!

Anyway, my advice is to go and get someone to check you out and give you an honest answer about whether it's normal or whether you need some help. You can have quite a straightforward op, but you can't give birth naturally after you've had it.

Try not to be down - this happens to a LOT of women, and like someone already said, very few admit to it

x

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16 December 2008 at 13:51

4 kiddies!!!
I had a stillbirth, and went on to have 3 more gorgeous children all natural. I havent noticed any difference and my husband has never commented. I think if you are that concerned you should speak to your GP, BUT DO THIS FOR YOU, NOBODY ELSE!

I wish you all the best for the future

xx

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16 December 2008 at 13:58

Sigh
Why are you posting this?????

Refering to your other post:

Quote:i had my daughter and son when i was 19
my birthday is the january
i had my daughter in febuary and my son in december so i got pregnant right away
my body never had a chance
i will be23 in a few weeks tha picture was taken tonight
my body isnt going to recover it had been 3years.
my other half thinks this is funny, he laughs at my boobs. he swears at them as we make love saying nasty things. i cant leave as no one else will have me
iknow hes cheated on me but he says he has needs
i want to be the one that satisfys him not some slag
i hate myself, i put myself in this horrible position by having children.
as for my vagina or my saddle bags he makes me feel worthless like a piece of meat.no one knows how i look without clothes. he says he will tell the world how i look f i so much as say anything he doesnt like
i need to get my confidence back and that involves major surgery


So how old are your kids exactly?????

What a lot of spam you post.

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16 December 2008 at 14:16
In response to busycaz

Sigh
Why are you posting this?????

Refering to your other post:

Quote:i had my daughter and son when i was 19
my birthday is the january
i had my daughter in febuary and my son in december so i got pregnant right away
my body never had a chance
i will be23 in a few weeks tha picture was taken tonight
my body isnt going to recover it had been 3years.
my other half thinks this is funny, he laughs at my boobs. he swears at them as we make love saying nasty things. i cant leave as no one else will have me
iknow hes cheated on me but he says he has needs
i want to be the one that satisfys him not some slag
i hate myself, i put myself in this horrible position by having children.
as for my vagina or my saddle bags he makes me feel worthless like a piece of meat.no one knows how i look without clothes. he says he will tell the world how i look f i so much as say anything he doesnt like
i need to get my confidence back and that involves major surgery


So how old are your kids exactly?????

What a lot of spam you post.

?????
Im confused???????????

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16 December 2008 at 14:19
In response to candi196

?????
Im confused???????????

Hi
That was a quote from her on her other thread titled 'pics of my ruined figure ( during and after pregnancy.

Both saying different things.

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17 December 2008 at 16:07

Anyone else ...
... madly doing pelvic floor exercises now??!!!!!

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20 September 2014 at 8:47

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24 January 2016 at 23:04
In response to frumpyfou

Quite frankly
if any man I honoured with sex had the effing audacity to make a sarky remark like that to me, it would be the last time he ever got to enjoy my body. What an insensitive £$%^&*

Thre are plenty of online sites that will tell you all about KEGEL exercises, and pelvic toners, if you are too embarrased to talk to you GP - but honestly, you shouldn't be. Your nurse or GP - or even better, your midwife -will be able to advise you, this is what they are trained to do as well.

Sad
You shouldn't put yourself up on a pedestal like that. You're not honoring anyone by having sex with them, you're selfishly doing what you can to get pleasure.

With an attitude like that you should be sending thank-you cards out to anyone who had intimate relations with you.

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31 January 2016 at 13:56

X
Let's be realistically if any women has pushed a baby no matter what size or how many times it's never going to be the same again.

As for your partner if he has any respect for you he wouldn't say that ...you brought his children into this world and what your body goes through for that he will never know, if that isn't enough for him then he's not a real man.
My partner makes comments yeah cuz my baby's were bug but never in a way to hurt me , I drag myself down he always say look at them it was worth it.

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22 March 2016 at 8:00

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18 April 2016 at 8:30

Make vagina tight naturally
My vagina was my problem. Ive had a lot of sex growing up but I dont think thats the reason..I couldt ask my friends about it because were too close and it would be embarrassing, I decided to come on here.. after came here i heard about the myotaut from google. Myotaut serum is one of the best way to make vagina lips smaller again I also recently purchased this product about a month ago, it is been great. Im surprised that it really works.

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12 September 2016 at 15:27

Make vagina tight naturally
Yes it's true childbirth ruin your vagina and i had the same problem but after my friend told me about myotaut vagina tightening serum when i was totally surprised and gave it to try At the beginning was not much difference. But after one or two weeks I realized that I was much tighter than normal. I have tried a few different products but only felt tight when trying to "put it in" and inside was still feeling loose.myotaut serum tightened the walls on the inside. You are not going to feel as a virgin but if it helps very much.

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